Happy Friday
I cannot tell you how glad I am that most people are getting the shots and being responsible. It has made my life much more fun lately. This past year as a living nightmare. And to be honest I would rather start this all out fresh…the other side as I like to think about it.
I will give a little back story on how I got where I am now. It is a very long story with lots of details. But who wants to be drowning in those details.
This story starts almost 5 years ago, I did say I would not kill you with details….short version. Break up, move half way across the country, start a new life, struggle with certain aspects of single life away from the ex, hit the internet to just talk. Okay we are now caught up until about a year and a half ago.
I went online to start talking to people….COVID wasn’t here yet but wasn’t sure where to meet a certain group of individuals of like mind. There were chats…mostly fake. Websites….fake and meat market. Facebook groups….omg the drama. But I did manage to talk to a couple people that told me (and invited me) about private groups they were in. Yes I have known about private and secret groups on Facebook, but if you don’t know about them you can’t get invited. I mean I even have them now…..well two but think it might need to be more. They had discussions about tips or topics would get started and a poll would pop up. Great group of people….hope one day they will read this and know I am talking about them. To protect them and the group from people that want to cause problems and drama because this is going to be public.
Now that we got all the blah blah blah out of the way…..I met a couple of couples online that told me about a club…not a dance club be a group of like minded individuals that I might want to check out. The catch to it….INVITE ONLY. You have to be recommended by a member, then vetted by an elder. I knew these groups existed as I was part of one in my former location. So I knew the process. But it was trying to get recommended. These groups are hard to get into due to people wanting to protect their privacy. I understand that because I would hate to have this known about me to others. I didn’t troll accounts trying to find that one person that recommend me. It is a process and I respected that process. Condensing again….I had been in the group for about 3 months when I was approached by someone I had not spoken to before. Rarely seen them comment they just stood in the shadows so to speak. He didn’t start off talking about a recommendation. Lots of online flirting and occasional phone calls at first. Usually at night when I was getting ready for bed….yeah get your mind out of the gutter. Eventually we went to more phone calls, text and even FaceTime. After talking daily for about 3 weeks he did start talking to me about being married. It was complicated yet simple….She just didn’t fulfill him sexually. He had known it for years almost since they got married but did what he thought he was suppose to do. After his second child was born she basically just decided sex was more of a chore for her and it was only once a month maybe more. I had heard this story before nothing new. Most of the time they are full of shit. Just saying that. I mean even my ex said that about me what a lie. But we all do what we have to, even lie to sleep at night.
Several months of talking went by when I finally asking him exactly what his sexual appetite was. The curiosity was killing me I had to know. That’s when I told me who and what he was. We had skirted around the subject many times but now it was out there. And here we are…….